At first glance this would seem to be a rhetorical question. Who doesn’t want to be successful? But, when you dig deeper you see that the answer isn’t quite that cut and dry.
Success is different for everyone. You have to define what success is to you. There is no right or wrong answer.
My ultimate idea of success would be to run my own business where I make over $150k a year. I have flexible hours and I work from home. I am free to come and go as I please to spend time with my family. I am also doing the job I love and wake up every day excited to work.
Take a moment to think of your idea of success.
Now that we have defined our idea of success; what’s next?
Now comes the choice of whether or not you actually want to be successful. We have already made the conscious choice that we want success. But hasn’t everyone? Do you know one person that would tell you they would not want to be successful? So what separates the people who are successful from the people who aren’t?
I can boil it down to one sentence…..
Will you do what it takes to achieve the level of success you have defined and let nothing stand in your way?
The complete answer to that question is very complex and requires much training, education, thought, and action. If you want to find out what you need to do specifically to achieve that success visit me at Gaddis Coaching and we can help educate you on what you need to do, then create a plan on how to do it, and then put systems in place to ensure your perpetual success.
After you have answered that question you will know whether or not you actually want to be successful. There are dreams and then there is reality. My dream is to play professional basketball. The reality is I am too short and my jump shot just isn’t good enough. So what is the reality?
The reality is I would not be happy as a basketball player. I would not like being on the road 10 months out of the year and missing all that time with my family. The reality is I was not willing to put in the time or the sacrifice in to become a professional basketball player. I was not willing to play overseas for years for the one chance to get a shot with a pro team.
While I love the idea of being a professional basketball player, I did not want it bad enough to let nothing stand in my way. So to find success, I had to change my idea of success. I had to be honest with myself and determine what I was willing to do to find success.
It is ok to have dreams, but it is not ok to lie to yourself and say that you will achieve your dreams when you were never willing to put in the time or effort required to achieve them. The point here is to make sure that your idea of success is something you are willing to work for and sacrifice for. If not you are just wasting time and spinning your tires and never making any progress.
It is ok to redefine your idea of success as you grow as a person. When you started reading this you might have said something similar to what I did. You might want to own your own business, do the job you love, and be your own boss. But are you really willing to do what is necessary to achieve that?
There is a great book called True North: Discover Your Authentic Leadership. While this book is geared towards aspiring business leaders, it applies to everyone. Leadership is essential in all aspects in life, not just in business. It is worth the read if you are in need of inward reflection and critical thinking. If you are having trouble finding your True North this book might help you become much happier and efficient.
In the end it is not what you want to do that will define your success, but what you actually do. So make sure you are spending the time and energy in the right places to reach your ultimate idea of success.